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R513 139: How To Get Unstuck With Jason Treu

May 18, 2016

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Welcome to another episode of #Ask513.

Jason_portraits011_Edited_2Welcome to episode #139 of The Results 513 Show.

Today we are talking with Jason Treu… Jason is a top business and executive coach and sales leadership trainer. He’s a leading expert on leadership, culture, influence, and relationship building.

He helps his clients get unstuck and find their purpose, put the passion back in their lives, create additional wealth, and build social, communication, emotional and leadership skill sets to take their business/career to the highest levels.

He’s worked with well-known CEOs such as Steve Jobs, Mark Hurd at HP, and many others. He’s helped his clients meet influencers such as Tim Cook, Bill Gates, Richard Branson and many others.

At the heart of his strategy is the understanding that people and your relationships are your true “wealth.” Everything we accomplish in life is with or through other people.

Jason’s bestselling book, Social Wealth, the how-to-guide on building personal and professional relationships, has sold more than 36,000 copies and has been #1 in four business and self-help categories.

Jason has his law degree and masters in communications from Syracuse University. He lives in Dallas, Texas.

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Here are the questions we asked Jason Treu, and a quick summary of his answers:

Why do people get stuck in the first place?

We have survival patterns and they can really hold us back because they can end up being our blind spots. Back in the cave man days our survival patterns actually helped us survive and stay alive. But now most of our fears are not about whether we’d be alive or dead. Now they’re fears that are irrational, they stop us from doing something like talking to a person across the room or speaking up at a meeting at work or getting in shape etc.

We need to turn our survival patterns into patterns of purpose. Patterns that fuel us and allow us to live our dreams. The challenge for people is to how to go about doing that, it may sound simple but it’s not easy.

It’s about going into the root of what’s holding them back, what do they not like  about their life. Understanding where they came from. People who are entrepreneurs usually had someone in their life who was an entrepreneur (a positive influence) or people who rebelled against their parents.,

Share a specific example of someone’s programming holding them back

I was doing a sales training for top producers and a woman wanted to improve. I asked her what stories were holding her back. Her story was that people didn’t like to speak or engage with her on the phone.

I asked  what negative emotion come up when she’s in that situation. She said she felt guilt and shame. I asked her what’s the limiting belief she had around this. And she confided that she felt not good enough or a good person.

I asked her to look into her childhood. It turns out that her grandmother and mother would make fun of her voice. And she got pretty emotional as I brought up all of these things.

I then said here’s how you can turn this all around in less than 2 minutes.

Every clients and prospect you have over the phone, I want you to tell the in that meeting, that the number one reason why you’re in sales is to get past exactly what you told me. That you’ve been made fun of your voice your whole life.

After that her career took off. She made more money in the next six months than anyone else in the entire team.

She was set free.

Lets dive in (Take us through that process).

1. Look at the behavior you want to change

For example New year’s resolutions and going to the gym. If you look to change at the behavioral level that fails very fast because you’re trying to use brute force change. Remember your best thinking got you over weight and not going to the gym.

Trying to think yourself into going to work out seldom works.

2. Look at the story you want to change

Look at the story you’re telling yourself why you can’t change. All of your stories are made up.  

When you get resistance your affirmations ain’t strong enough to break past resistance.

3. Dive into the deeper level of the emotional level.

Emotions are key and the gateway to change. Through vulnerability we show our true selves to people. It allows us to be authentic. But we live in a world where we don’t want to feel any negative emotions. That’s why we drink or take fills.

A study found that parents who worried lots did no better than parents who didn’t. The takeaway was that you can’t dress rehearse tragedy.

When bad things hit you they’re going to hit you and you will have to deal with you. But by excessive worrying it robs you of your ability to enjoy life in the moment. They couldn’t celebrate with their children fully.

You can’t have great love without great heartbreak. You won’t want to be a successful entrepreneur and not be willing to realize that everything could fall apart if you put it all on the line.

You have to share emotions. But you have to find people or safe places to share your emotions that you trust to share your story with. Sharing your dirty laundry on Facebook isn’t being vulnerable that’s over sharing.

What you resist you persist and the same goes with emotions.

Everyone can relate to a time when they got really upset or mad and they told someone and they got it off their chest. You feel like a huge weight has been taken off your chest. If you can do that on a consistent basis you’ll be amazed at one can happen.

What’s the new approach (emotion level vs story level)?

Ask yourself: When you think about going to the gym what negative emotions pop up, what are you feeling in your body?

You need to get at the core of what’s happening.

Why is that emotion coming up? Ask yourself why.

Force yourself to come up with the story of what you’re sad. And you will start to rumble with all the emotions and stories that show up.

Below the emotional level are the limiting beliefs that you have.

Limiting beliefs are stories that you have about yourself. Limiting beliefs are having an absolute certainty around whatever you’ve attached that meaning to. A limiting belief that ‘you’re not good enough’. Limiting beliefs are absolutely critical as you have absolute certainty around them.

But all stories and limiting beliefs are made up.

A lot of us have conspiracy theories around what we think others think of us. Sometimes we have confabulations: lies that we honestly believe.

The final level is our biggest stumbling blocks typically happen before the age of 10 or 7. We model the behavior of our parents, by learning, modeling and accepting. But you can’t let that hold you back.

Now that you’ve gone down all those levels you can start going back up the level?

  • What beliefs would I need to have to successfully keep working out at the gym?
  • What emotions would I need to have to be successful keep working out?
  • What stories would I need to have to have to keep going to the gym?

Reverse engineering it up is much better than just looking at behaviors. The thing that’s always holding you back is you and you have to figure it out.

What if it’s immediately obvious?

Usually it will come out eventually. I’ve never not have it happen.

Some limiting belief will come and ask yourself when was the first time you remember that emotion coming out? And you unpack that moment and reverse engineer that out.

Realize that you’re not a broken person. But understand that it’s just a pattern going on in their life that started as a child. But you can change that pattern.

1% movement of change can have immense change in your life. It’s not radical change.

Lets Recap

  1. Look at the behaviour
  2. look at the stories that come up externally
  3. what negative emotions pop up around that behaviour
  4. what internal limiting beliefs come up
  5. what are your childhood modeling that caused that limiting belief.

How can people find you?

BeExtraordinary.tv

JasonTreu on Twitter, Instagram or Youtube.

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Justin Glover is a husband, father, and entrepreneur. He is also the co-founder of Results513.com. You can connect with Justin on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube.

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